Dear New Mamma,
I hear you’re going through a really rough time. I’m so sorry.
I want you to know:
- It is okay not to be able to do everything yourself.
- It is okay not to know how to do everything.
- It is okay not to be super-duper cheery.
- It’s okay to cry.
Please, please find some way to get at least three to four hours of uninterrupted sleep every day. It may not happen all the time, but try. It is the most important thing to help deal with your emotions and hormonal fluctuations right now. Getting together a routine–not a strict schedule–but a set way of moving through the day can help.
Trust that even if you can’t show it or bring up the emotions from your dark, cloudy head and heart, you do still love your child, you do still love your partner. Counseling can make a huge difference in processing what is going on and give you some relief.
Above all, remember these two things:
- Never, ever compare your insides (your situation) to someone else’s outsides (what they appear able to do, to be).
- No matter how you feel physically, emotionally, and mentally, no matter what you do, or what limitations you find yourself working with, YOU ARE ALREADY the best, most perfect mother that your child could possibly have. What a blessing it is for your little one to have you.
Much love from someone who’s been there, and still is.
P.S. And one more thing, it’s okay to be angry. Nothing you’re going through is fair, you get to be ticked off about it.
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